As the days get shorter and the darkness grows, I welcome this season of reflection. It’s a time to look back and marvel (or cringe) at the events of the year and look forward to the probabilities, possibilities, and potentials of the future. More than anything, it’s a time to look within, to feel where we are on the inner journey.
Here in the US, we are between the two biggest holidays of the year, Thanksgiving and Christmas. A time of gratitude for life’s blessings, followed by a time of giving and wonder. In between is also the solstice, a moment of balance, like the pause between the inhale and the expression. In this “between time” I also feel the longer bookends of the epic Dream of the Merlin in September and the Heaven’s Cross event coming in March. Expand more and I feel the beginning of our journey in Atlantis and the adventure’s culmination in this lifetime. It’s been a crazy ride, this Earth journey. Full of surprises, discomfort, discovery, joy, grief, love, and so much more. Was it worth all the wandering, pain, darkness, and frustration?
Finally, I’m at the point of unequivocally saying “Yes!” I feel a lot of gratitude for the wisdom treasures now in my possession, and there was probably no other way to find them except to take the paths I did and feel everything I felt. There are many, but here are some of my favorite gems.
EXPERIENCE WITHOUT CONFLICT
When I really, truly accept the end of duality, it means being IN every experience rather than resisting and trying to get out of it. Of course, I’m still human and there are times when this neutrality doesn’t feel possible, because surely “this” experience is way better “that” one. But more and more I am able to sink deeply into whatever is happening, breathe it in and immediately feel the wisdom.
The other day I received some troubling news about one of my kids, something no parent wants to hear. As I sat with the feelings, breathed deeply and let my heart to open despite the tears and fear, I saw the decades-old root of the situation, my contribution to its creation, and exactly what my response could be. In the past when similar things have come up, I’ve either gone straight into “fix it” mode or given myself some platitude like “Their soul is guiding them, just let it be.” While neither response is wrong, they both mean I’m not being fully present with what is. But when there’s nothing to fix and everything to honor, it makes the space for resolution and healing. And allowing myself to deeply feel and be present with the pain, guilt, and hope – without trying to change or fix anything – somehow illuminates the potential for a different outcome.
FLOW WITHOUT RESISTANCE
Closely related to the previous treasure, this one is especially tricky for the mind. We humans like to make things happen, and we’ve tried a million ways to do it. Prayers, magic potions, blood sacrifices, self-help books, diets, university classes, bludgeons, alms, bribery, working our fingers to the bone – the list could go on forever. But every item on it has to do with pushing and pulling and trying “making it happen.” Trouble is, even with all that effort, things still rarely go the way we want. At some point it all becomes so exhausting that we just give up. After all, Adamus keeps saying “Just allow!” so we finally try that. But passivity doesn’t engage the flow any better than pushing and pulling. So how the heck does it really work? That’s where flow comes in.
I’ve taken so many dead ends and detours on my way to a magical life that I could write a book on what NOT to do! But being in the flow basically comes down to self-love, desire, trust, and acceptance. First, you must love yourself enough to feel worthy of having your desires fulfilled. Then, actually allowing and following your desires, trusting the flow (even when things don’t go as planned), and accepting the synchronicity that’s already unfolding right in front of you gives the recipe for a magical life!
To me, here’s the bottom line: Flow is being IN the experience of life without so much commentary about it.
Closely related to the previous treasures, this one is about the inherent goodness of life. When I use the term “miracle” or “magic,” it’s referring to the unplanned, unexpected, perhaps un-understood ways that energy is always, always serving me. It’s what naturally happens when I take my oars out of the water and allow the river of life – my life – to bring me where it will. Since it’s mine, there can be nothing that doesn’t support my journey and my joy, so it simply can’t go wrong! Unless I interfere.
Someone told me recently how much they enjoyed the holiday, precisely because they had stopped trying to make it anything other than what it was. When I stop trying to make ANYTHING other than what it is, I can finally see the miraculous at every turn.
LET PEOPLE HAVE THEIR DRAMA
Everyone is in their own flow of life, whether it’s smooth and steady or more like a category 5 hurricane. The problem is that whirlwinds tend to grab things and throw them around. It’s just the nature of their energy flow, and it means that staying out of other people’s drama sometimes requires very subtle awareness. For instance, I tend to be a very punctual person and feel most comfortable being on time or early to appointments. However, once in a while I have a random delay or, worse, a total brain fart that causes me to be late or forget the appointment altogether. The odd thing is that the few times that’s happened, it somehow fulfilled the other person’s expectation of life! In other words, if I miss a phone call, forget to send an invitation, or otherwise “drop the ball,” it almost invariably validates someone else’s perception of “not being heard” or “feeling left out” or some other woe that “keeps happening” to them.
It’s important to note that this doesn’t exempt me from personal responsibility in any way. I have to take ownership of my own choices, blunders and omissions, but when something happens that’s totally out of character, that’s the time to see if I got buffeted by someone else’s storm – and then gracefully bow out.
Blessed is the Master who can keep from getting caught up in the whirlwinds of others.
PERCEPTION CREATES REALITY
This is another tricky one because we tend to believe our perceptions. The ways we see other people, their motivations, and everything else appears totally real. However, like the old adage about how the pessimist and optimist see a partially filled glass of water, it’s our perception that’s real, which then creates our experience. Depending on one’s mood, the highway can be full of lovely people out for a spin – or populated with idiots and jerks. Same cars, same traffic, same road, just a different perceiver.
Is there such a thing as objective reality? Ultimately, I don’t think so. Talk to me about any situation, even the most horrible things humans do to each other, and I can offer a different way to perceive it. So, the question becomes, where do I want MY attention to go? What kind of world will I choose to perceive today? For then it shall be so. That’s how perfectly it works and how thoroughly we create our individual realities.
When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.
EVERY MOMENT IS NEW
Again, it sounds like a cheesy cliché, but you really CAN choose a whole new life at any moment. However, humans are creatures of habits and patterns. It makes life on Earth a bit easier in some ways, but it also makes change seem harder than it needs to be. So, how do you change a pattern without pushing and pulling and working at it, or seeing it as “wrong” or “right”?
Here’s one way to look at it. Imagine your life energy is like a puddle. It’s placid and smooth until your desire drops a pebble in the water, which then sets up a pattern that affects the entire puddle. If you like the pattern, keep dropping your attnention-pebbles in that spot and it’ll continue. But if you no longer want that pattern, don’t try to fix or change it; that only disturbs it more and makes the pattern more chaotic. Instead, just go drop in your new attention-pebble somewhere else and make a new pattern that you like.
In other words, forget about what you didn’t want yesterday or don’t want now. What’s your desire in THIS moment? The patterns that don’t get your attention will simply fade away.
ALL REALLY IS WELL
I could go on with so many more treasures from this journey, but so can you! In this time of thanks, giving, and magic, I’m going to perceive the things I really like. In this momentous pause between yesterday and tomorrow, a time so rich with potential, I invite you to take a moment and acknowledge the treasures you have found. It’s a beautiful way of perceiving, and therefore creating, the very best gift you could give to yourself and All That Is: A whole new world.
Postscript: Relaxing with a cup of tea just minutes after writing this article, I had to chuckle at the message on the tea bag tag. “Gratitude is not about what is received; it’s about how you receive what is there.”